tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.comments2023-05-16T02:59:19.884-07:00a dyke of a certain caliberdaughter of my mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03971201336774540940noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-33885499965154252132011-07-25T14:47:13.942-07:002011-07-25T14:47:13.942-07:00W.O.W. you've laid down the words I've spe...W.O.W. you've laid down the words I've spent a year trying to find. Incredible. Peace and love 2 u :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-35557416440573489892011-07-24T22:04:47.061-07:002011-07-24T22:04:47.061-07:00This is amazing,and a lot if it is how I feel some...This is amazing,and a lot if it is how I feel sometimes [most of the time].Jodie-Ann Geddeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14220917066706753523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-61878349254921059262011-03-15T12:59:07.207-07:002011-03-15T12:59:07.207-07:00I have no words to comfort you, nor have I experie...I have no words to comfort you, nor have I experienced going through. I felt your dispair through your words and I just want to offer you a cyber hug and some hope. Things will get better, she needs more help than you alone can give seek all the help you can get.SunSoakerBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07881301524727103356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-46726142569091633332011-02-09T22:02:21.616-08:002011-02-09T22:02:21.616-08:00Oh, this is just grand. Seriously, I enjoyed this ...Oh, this is just grand. Seriously, I enjoyed this peek into your world, into your things. I will continue reading....Biancahttp://myarmisafigtree.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-56819311598567576302010-09-30T06:15:58.912-07:002010-09-30T06:15:58.912-07:00There are only 24 people who follow this page, and...There are only 24 people who follow this page, and I see why. The owner of this blog proves (in her 2 articles on this topic) to be divisive and myopic in her vision. <br />Her statements in these last 2 essays on this topic are contradictory and confusing. I have seen other (Africans) talk about some of these challenges of "appropriation" in a much more respectful and analytical way.<br />The owner of this blog, is an opportunist who uses <br />incendiary language, "hate mongering" and disprectful, hurtful statements to try to "prove" her wack point. My theory is, she used such a divisive title and thesis to try to build up her profile. In one instance she says "Black Americans (implying all)" do this and that, and in her rebuttal she conveniently starts to say "Some Black Americans". This should have been more of an aspect of her stance from the beginning if she was going to talk about this complex issue. She could have used her essays to be catalysts for this important discussion, but instead she alienated a lot of folks in a disrepectful and dismissive way.<br /><br />When the owner of this blog matures in her ability to truly put forth complex analysis, then she will truly be "Fly". until then, her writing is just a hot mess.<br />p.s. also the owner of this blog labels herself a Dyke of a certain caliber, I hate to tell her, but she would not be considered "African" either by many Africans due to her gayness. She should really be careful of the Us vs Them stance, because in the minds of many Africans, she would truly be a Them.<br />I wish her well as she grows up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-48828640294509271642010-09-29T20:19:32.739-07:002010-09-29T20:19:32.739-07:00Sides are irrelevant. Uhm fly... LOL, please tell ...Sides are irrelevant. Uhm fly... LOL, please tell me this is the last breath you'll waste on this conversation?<br /><br />But way to #read hun... SURGICAL.<br /><br />If you do end up responding again, I need to see a recap in real life. This needs to be in some sort of performance piece. TOO Funny.bLaKtivisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06915003530759342159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-23943933931893366242010-09-29T14:01:08.968-07:002010-09-29T14:01:08.968-07:00This sounds all too familar; at any time an africa...This sounds all too familar; at any time an african disagrees with an american (more blacks than whites) the first retort is "well if you don't like it, go back to Africa".SMH. It has become like the "your mama" rebuttle; as in I don't have anything else to say so yeah, your mama. Like you said Yvonne, its ok to disagree without being disrespectful.<br /><br />All the same, I read, understood and enjoyed the article, and while SK obviously didn't "understand" it, we still need more positive Africans speaking out. <br /><br />Stay strong!<br /><br />@wittyroz.Rose O.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-87258446804834701392010-09-29T13:13:34.325-07:002010-09-29T13:13:34.325-07:00This is getting heated, yo.
*looks around*
*wonde...This is getting heated, yo.<br /><br />*looks around*<br />*wonders deeply*<br />*looks introspectively*<br /><br />I have already spoken my piece, son. <br /><br />:)Lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03646788767645162532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-55439722283700072992010-09-29T12:23:32.127-07:002010-09-29T12:23:32.127-07:00@anonymous: there was a typo in my previous commen...@anonymous: there was a typo in my previous comment to you: i meant to say: please NOTE that I’m not Black and Nigerian in the way you are, so my issues and perspective aren’t the same.<br /><br />thanks so much for taking the time to read my thoughts. please do keep reading. ;)daughter of my mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03971201336774540940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-12269116621327381152010-09-29T12:20:48.858-07:002010-09-29T12:20:48.858-07:00@everyone: thank you for reading this! please fin...@everyone: thank you for reading this! please find my fan page on facebook (just search my name) and join me here: twitter.com/myloveisaverb of course, please keep reading!<br /><br />see below my individual responses to you. also, I wrote a follow up to this essay: http://www.myloveisaverb.com/2010/09/its-not-black-vs-african-check-yourself.html<br /><br />@roseline: thank you!!! I appreciate the love!<br /><br />@bLaKtivist: I'm telling the truth as I see it. it's so so soooo necessary to keep speaking and keep speaking. tourism from the 1st world to the 3rd world is inherently racist. I think we need to be really thoughtful about this and not think that because we’re Black, we have no power to engage in oppressive practices. I want to write more about this. that sucks re: facebook. hopefully you can post it now? ;)<br /><br />@Vcat: I agree, I agree. what do you mean by "And, of course, no need to try to dissect another's identity when you are secure in our own."? is that directed at me? at no point do I dissect anyone's identity except my own.<br /><br />@T.Allen.Mercado: oh thank you so much for your heartfelt words, it means a lot. truly truly. ;)<br /><br />@memorexe: YES DELTA STAND UP!!! thank you!<br /><br /><br />@Skelly: see this for my response to you: http://www.myloveisaverb.com/2010/09/its-not-black-vs-african-check-yourself.html<br /><br />@nelo89: thank you dear one for standing up for me, for standing for truth and for so clearly articulating what needed to be said. na wa o, for real. sending heart & palm oil. ;)<br /><br />@anonymous: I think if someone has a Nigerian parent then they are Nigerian. to what degree any Nigerian outside of Nigeria (in England, the States, France, etc etc) chooses to identify with their culture is up to them.<br /><br />re: what you find confusing: no I can’t tell anyone how to identify, but from my perspective, someone who’s never set foot in Africa, doesn’t know anything about their African culture or spirituality, ambiguously claims all of Africa (not a country or ethnic group) and whose last family member born and raised on the continent was hundreds of years ago is NOT African. that is my opinion. it’s not just about having African blood, it’s about culture and language and experiences. everyone on the planet has African blood in them—that’s where life started, but what makes someone African is more than just that blood.<br /><br />there’s a lot to be written about identity. there are innumerable ways to think of, talk and write about Nigerian identity. I wouldn’t say that my article wasn’t “meant to apply to someone like (you)”. it applies if you think it applies, however please not that I’m not Black and Nigerian in the way you are, so my issues and perspective aren’t the same.daughter of my mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03971201336774540940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-82730117359802577462010-09-26T17:57:39.462-07:002010-09-26T17:57:39.462-07:00Although I understand the general idea of argument...Although I understand the general idea of arguments set forth in this essay, the issue i have is tht it is so black and white. or should i say african and black. the whole time i am reading, i wonder where the author would place me, having a black mother born in south carolina and an igbo father born in nigeria. i was born in america, yet i still identify as nigerian just as much, if not more than i identify as being black/african american. i have always felt a division between these two sides of myself, with the african side of my family often seeing me as primarily and black and the black side of my family seeing me as primarily african.<br /><br />i find it confusing that the article talks so much about self-identification and not letting others define who u are, yet the author is so adamant about who can and cannot identify with africa. maybe none of the comments in this article are meant to apply to someone like me, who truly has ties to both sides of this spectrum. i invite the author to say something on this issue of individuals with a bi-cultural background.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-51927636368912460722010-09-25T11:23:39.181-07:002010-09-25T11:23:39.181-07:00@skelly,
Na wa.
1. Ya, she can. If you read he...@skelly, <br /><br />Na wa. <br /><br />1. Ya, she can. If you read her article, you could see how. :)<br /><br />2. No, it doesn't. It just doesn't. Until First generation Nigerian/Gambian/Ghanaian/Cape Verdean is taught in school and as accepted as your culture, it REALLY doesn't. <br /><br />"my mother's ghanaian significant other mentioned that the slave trade is never mentioned in african schools - the party line is that we just 'went away' as if on vacation. talk about a sideye."<br /><br />That's because most of still have elders that get misty eyed or angry when they talk about circumstances that led to the slave trade in some of their line. Slavery didn't just scar you lot, it scared us too.<br /><br />3. Same reason why AAs are not that cool with white people who teach in the hood. The patronizing that might be included in that person's admission is not compatible with elements of (at least) Nigerian history. <br /><br />"yet divorce herself from the people who created it/fought for its/our freedoms."<br /><br />She does not. She is just doing what isn't popular in the "Pan-Africanist" mindset--stating what she is and what she is not.nelo89https://www.blogger.com/profile/12779691040322098378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-14034926722531441012010-09-24T11:41:39.083-07:002010-09-24T11:41:39.083-07:00# 1 - you can't have both. you can't "...# 1 - you can't have both. you can't "claim soul music, hip hop", etc., & maintain your elitist african-ness @ a distance from all us heathen american blacks.<br /><br />2 - if she was born here then that makes her a true african american.<br /><br />it seems as though many of our kin from the continent think of us as 'slaves' - when mainland africans were part & parcel of our becoming slaves, & NO accountability is taken for that. my mother's ghanaian significant other mentioned that the slave trade is never mentioned in african schools - the party line is that we just 'went away' as if on vacation. talk about a sideye.<br /><br />3 - hate to bring this up, but as many good nigerian private citizens as there are out there doing real work, it may take more work on an activists part to discern them from those who run the myriad scams that nigerians are famous for - so why is she hating on ppl who help set up schools in third world countries? - wierd.<br /><br />we have been divorced from our culture, & are fascinated by it why is she so scornful of that?<br /><br />if she's SO nigerian, then maybe that's where she should live. but she won't do that b/c by her own admission, she will get treated with the same snotty 'tude that she bestows upon black americans, & doesn't want THAT.<br /><br />is she trying to claim that africans don't travel? let's talk bourgoise - not only do they travel - extensively, but most mainland africans TO THIS DAY keep a servant or two - still haven't learned about that little iron-clad class system of theirs.<br /><br />now here's where i get really confused: she claims to be 100% nigerian, just BORN here... & in another breath, that her great grandmother is trinidadian - but she isn't. so which one is it? b/c that type of mix makes her patently afro-american.<br /><br />& then in the end, she wants to talk global community. my senegalese SISTER, who has walked the catwalks of paris, & keeps a DOPE apartment on gold st. while she lives part of the year in dakar, NEVER tried to sell me a load of bull like this.<br /><br />methinks the author is plagued with issues, & may need to do a little research of her own; specifically w/regard to her own persona. she seems to fully identify w/hip hop culture & yet divorce herself from the people who created it/fought for its/our freedoms.<br /><br />this is disrespectful, patronizing, callous, & soulless much of the things we accuse white colonists of being.<br /><br />the author needs to check herself.bellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641650173526006331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-14595984891228163662010-09-24T01:05:51.512-07:002010-09-24T01:05:51.512-07:00I'm with #realityfail: the hyper-romanticism o...I'm with #realityfail: the hyper-romanticism of the continent needs to stop, like RIGHT. NOW.<br /><br />Also, DELTA STAND UP!<br /><br />thank you....memorexehttp://thememorexe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-27928756872412147552010-09-23T22:04:04.319-07:002010-09-23T22:04:04.319-07:00I'm without words, or atleast words i feel are...I'm without words, or atleast words i feel are worthy. I am deeply moved by your writing, your passion, and your truth. Thank you for sharing, educating and uplifting. <br /><br />"It’s my life’s work to be me as I see me and let the world do what the world will do." This is a gem.T.Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07288157852760931385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-82301696649528741142010-09-23T18:37:36.302-07:002010-09-23T18:37:36.302-07:00Black Americans have to learn to be proud of what ...Black Americans have to learn to be proud of what we do know--our history in this country. Despite singing "We Shall Overcome" every once in a while, we've been taught to view slavery/Reconstruction/Jim Crow/etc through a prism of deep shame. There's no need to reach back to a mythical/mystical Africa when in our own history there are stories of triumph/survival/etc. <br /><br />And, of course, no need to try to dissect another's identity when you are secure in our own.tpsullihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588474673106781849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-43798478938634064912010-09-23T12:55:49.197-07:002010-09-23T12:55:49.197-07:00SPEAK.ON.IT. Love you, love this piece. Love that ...SPEAK.ON.IT. Love you, love this piece. Love that you SENT IT OUT like - I would like you to read this.<br /><br />You said so many things that I've needed to read, to share, to express because being a descendant of Africa I've never been psyched about aggrandizing "African Culture" -- wutever the hell THAT IS... Right! Especially love the part about TOURISM...<br /><br />I was about to post this on my wall, and make a quote of it my status message on Facebook, until I realized it was down. <br /><br />Twitter it is... THEN :) <br /><br />bless,<br />bLaKbLaKtivisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06915003530759342159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-67541300633720419882010-09-23T11:04:50.982-07:002010-09-23T11:04:50.982-07:00What!!!??!!!...I can't talk I might sound real...What!!!??!!!...I can't talk I might sound really ignorant right about now because I'm so proud and inspired and hyped and just full. Full of everything that is beautiful and Nigerian and African and just human. Great essay!<br /><br />@WittyRozRoselinehttp://www.twitter.com/wittyroznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-5153361909511255092010-08-25T18:30:36.934-07:002010-08-25T18:30:36.934-07:00Where are they? Would be great to meet some. Is th...Where are they? Would be great to meet some. Is there a group floating around?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10569158064731707318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-60457115291192664562010-08-16T14:18:25.396-07:002010-08-16T14:18:25.396-07:00@mizchif: thanks so much, i love when people put t...@mizchif: thanks so much, i love when people put their soul into their bio so i put my soul into mine.;) thanks for reading, please continue to do so.daughter of my mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03971201336774540940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-65145109296716199122010-08-02T19:50:15.105-07:002010-08-02T19:50:15.105-07:00OMG! I love your bio.OMG! I love your bio.mizchifhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11856675705278891115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-49615171796970160072010-06-24T03:50:59.026-07:002010-06-24T03:50:59.026-07:00To say I'm inspired and awed is an understatem...To say I'm inspired and awed is an understatement. For lack of anything better, artist like myself need writers like you, lesbians like myself, need dykes like you.<br /><br />Stay flySothoWordSmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05830970625569692138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-51602079418567123282010-06-17T06:29:56.260-07:002010-06-17T06:29:56.260-07:00Growth is a beautiful thing isn't it!Growth is a beautiful thing isn't it!Tatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13838608605892448949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-56901612302363818362010-06-01T14:14:23.937-07:002010-06-01T14:14:23.937-07:00@z.: you're ridiculous and i love it. ridicul...@z.: you're ridiculous and i love it. ridiculous that's so bananas it's pineapple. and i love it all. ;)<br /><br />@t.: you're so kind! please keep reading ;)<br /><br />@nne: i'm so glad z. is spreading tha good word. thanks for stopping by. stay for a loooong while. ;)<br /><br />@everyone: thank you for your breath and your gaze on my words. if you wanna see me, peep my channel: www.youtube.com/AfrocrownDivadaughter of my mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03971201336774540940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4253625500851740612.post-67733600149821216202010-06-01T13:52:08.142-07:002010-06-01T13:52:08.142-07:00just got here from Z's blog...yeah, in essence...just got here from Z's blog...yeah, in essence, i'm going to stew here for a minute.NneomaMDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03116013790446026291noreply@blogger.com